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The Bible does not directly address single mothers, but there are many examples  of God’s gentle interaction with women, mothers, widows and their children.  These examples, and God’s gentleness, apply whether a mother is single or  married or widowed or divorced. God knows each person intimately and knows her  situation completely. The Bible warns that sex outside of marriage is sinful and  dangerous and will bring troubles, one of which is that a woman might have to  raise a child by herself, which is undoubtedly difficult. And if it is her own  sin that has resulted in single motherhood, our gracious God is still just as  willing to bring help and comfort. And what’s better is that He offers  forgiveness for those sins through Jesus Christ and the eternal comfort of  heaven for the mother who accepts Him, the children who accept Him, and even the  estranged husband who accepts Him!

But often a woman finds herself alone  and raising children through no fault of her own. Sadly, women are often  innocent victims of a world wracked by war and terrorism. Husbands go off to war  and never return, selflessly giving their lives for their countries. If a  husband’s death has left a woman single with children, there is no doubt that  God will help and comfort that woman.

God cares about families. But He  is more concerned that each person, no matter what her family looks like,  repenting of sin and coming into a relationship with Him. He wants us to know  Him, because His creatures knowing Him brings us joy and brings Him glory. We  get bound up in the details of our lives, worrying what other people will think  of us and whether the church will accept us and whether we have ruined things  entirely. But God calls the Christian to the joy of being above the weight of  worry. He has said that we should cast all our cares upon Him, for He cares for  us (1 Peter  5:7). He wants to carry the burden and forgive our sins and then forget  about our sins and help us to move on. All He asks us to do is know Him, delight  in Him, and trust Him. Single mothers are often very responsible people, and  sometimes it can be hard to just “set aside” worries and cares. A single mother  might feel guilty just thinking about it! But God commands us to do it anyway,  to spend a little time each day to focus on Him, and trust (during the rest of  the day) that He will provide for us, both physically and emotionally as we lean  on Him.

What this might look like for a single mom is setting aside time  to read the Bible and pray. She might think, “I just don’t have time for that  between working and raising a child and taking care of the house and everything  else.” But if even for half an hour when her child is sleeping or being watched  by a relative or friend, she can set aside time to talk to God in prayer and  listen to His voice in Scripture, even if it means not cleaning that pile of  dishes, she will find His amazing strength and comforting presence will be with  her for the rest of the day. Memorizing verses like “The Lord is my helper, I  will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” (Psalm 118:6)  or “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13) will  help provide tangible reminders of His love and protection when things get tough  or stressful.

So, what does God have to say to single mothers? The same  thing He has to say to everyone else. Repent of sin, trust in Christ for  forgiveness, communicate with God through prayer, listen to His voice through  Scripture, lean on God for strength in trials, and put your hope in the amazing  eternal life with Him that He has planned. “For no eye has seen, no ear has  heard, no mind has conceived the wonderful things that God has prepared for  those that love Him” (1  Corinthians 2:9).

*first posted on altruistico May 06, 2013

This question fits right in with God’s greatest commandment, found in Deuteronomy 6:4-5, to love our God with all of our being. Here is some guidance in how to bring that about from Scripture:

1) It goes without saying that we cannot love someone we do not know. Get to know God and what He has done for you. Before the command to love God is given in Deuteronomy 6:5, the statement is made, “Hear O Israel, The LORD our God is one LORD.” One aspect of this statement is that He is unique, and the better we get to know what He is like, the easier it will be for us to love Him with our whole being. This also involves getting to know what He has done for us. Again, before the first command is given in Exodus 20:3, God states what He had done for Israel in bringing them out of slavery in Egypt. Likewise, in Romans 12:1-2, the command to offer our lives as living sacrifices is prefaced with the word therefore–a word meant to remind us of all of the mercies of God toward us recorded in the previous chapters.

To grow in love with God, one needs to get to know Him. He has revealed Himself in nature (Romans 1), but so much more through His Word. We need to make daily Bible study a perpetual habit—as much a part of our lives as eating every day. We would do well to remember that the Bible is more than a book; it is truly God’s love letter to us, revealing His love for us through the centuries, especially through the ministry of Jesus Christ, His Son. We must read the Bible as a letter from Him, asking His Holy Spirit to speak to our hearts about what He wants us to glean from it that day. Memorizing important verses and passages is also essential, as is thinking of ways to apply what we learn (Joshua 1:8).

2) Follow Jesus’ example of praying constantly and consistently. When we examine the life of Jesus as well as that of Daniel and others who had a passion for God, we find that prayer was a vital ingredient in their relationships with God (even a quick reading of the gospels and the Book of Daniel reveals this). As with Bible study, prayer—sincere and open communication with God—is essential. You cannot imagine a man and woman growing in love without communicating, so prayer cannot be neglected without expecting one’s love for God to grow cold. Prayer is part of the armor against our greatest enemies (Ephesians 6:18). We may have a desire to love God, but we will fail in our walk without prayer (Matthew 26:41).

3) Walk closely with Him NOW. Daniel and his three friends chose to obey God and refused to compromise in even the food they ate (Daniel 1). The others who were brought from Judah to Babylon as prisoners with them caved in and are never mentioned again. When the Jewish prisoners of war had their convictions challenged in a far greater way, it was only these few who stood alone for God (Daniel 3 and 6). In order to ensure that we will be passionate for God later, we need to walk with Him now and begin to obey Him in the smallest tests! Peter learned this the hard way by following God “at a distance,” rather than identifying himself more closely with Christ before his temptation to deny Him (Luke 22:54). God says that where a man’s treasure is, there his heart will be also. As we invest our lives in God through serving Him and being on the receiving end of persecution for Him, our treasure will increasingly lie with Him, and so will our hearts (1 Timothy 3:12; Matthew 6:21).

4) Eliminate the competition. Jesus said it is impossible to have two masters (Matthew 6:24). We are tempted to love the world (those things which please our eyes, make us feel good about ourselves, and gratify our fleshly desires) (1 John 2:15-17). James says that to seek to embrace the world and its friendship is enmity (hatred) toward God and spiritual adultery (James 4:4). We need to get rid of those things in our lives (friends who would lead us the wrong way, things that take up our time and energy and keep us from serving God more fully, pursuit of popularity, pursuit of possessions, and the pursuit of physical and emotional gratifications). God promises that if we pursue Him, He will not only provide for our needs (Matthew 6:33) but will give us our desires as well (Psalm 37:4-5).

5) If straying, begin to do what helped you grow in love with God in the first place. It is not uncommon to have dips in a relationship. Peter dipped in his (Luke 22:54), and David dipped in his (2 Samuel 11), but they got up and pursued after God once again. John, in Revelation 2:4, states it is not a case of “losing” one’s love but “leaving” one’s love. The cure is to do the “first works,” those things that caused one to grow in love with God in the first place. This would include those items mentioned above. The first step in this is confession and receiving the forgiveness and restored fellowship that are the result of that confession (1 John 1:9). There is no doubt that God will bless the pursuit of a passion for Him and will glorify His name through it.